We’re making Rest accessible! #rest #sleepgap #restgap #stressrelief #selfcare #selflove #therestspot #defaultparent #momburnout #mentalload #workingmom #resttherapy #burnout #atlmom #smyrnaga #wellbeing #stress #stressedout #stressed #momlife #burnout #tiredmom #staycation #sleepconcierge #sleep #restretreat #openingday
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I love spending time with my daughter, but at 5 months old, they can, on occasion, be a little dull. There are only so many times you can read the 4 page pop-up books or sing 'Mr Golden Sun' before your mind starts wandering. Mine wanders to my to-do list, which never stops growing. So this came up as the first thing I realised I am taxed on as a mum.. I have less time to do my life admin but so much more of it to do. If I had 3 wishes, I would: - Normalise asking for help to have the time to do admin. Just because I am in the house doesn't mean I always must be on baby duty. - A one-stop shop website for all the sensible things I need to do now. I have another person to look after. Savings accounts, will writing support, who needs to know I have a baby now. - Spread the mental load of running the house. Yes, this one is down to me, I have always done everything, and it's hard to break those habits. Any advice on how to find the balance welcome. #newmum #mumtax #defaultparent #mentalload #baby #maternityleave
I'll lose followers over this, but I don't care. If you're the she-fault parent, you don't prioritize professional development. It's the elephant in the room that nobody seems to talk about. Want to know what the she-fault parent is? It's the admission that women typically take on the majority of caregiving responsibilities and household duties within a family. The default parent. Balancing demanding roles at work and home, the she-fault parent lacks time for professional development. This dual responsibility impacts professional development as women navigate societal norms and juggle professional expectations of leadership roles with caregiving duties. I know this because I see it daily in my clients. They are drowning. They feel like they are failing. Failing their family, and failing to live up to their professional potential. I partner with female leaders to outline their professional development path and provide a plan and accountability. We work together. This is one area of their life where they don't need to feel alone. From one default parent to another, I see you. Feel free to share this with your network, or the she-fault parent in your life balancing the weight of leading professionally and personally. Could you do me a favor? Comment below or tag someone you know who's doing a great job of navigating the life of a she-fault parent and leader. I'd love to connect and see more women in my feed. The failure to focus on professional development is also a contributing factor to the motherhood penalty, but that's a post for another day. If you want to learn more, I recommend reading "Fair Play" by Eve Rodsky. Or, follow @realzachthinkshare here. Photo: The last day of school with the three who call me mom. #fairplay #shefaultparent #defaultparent #workingmom #womenprofessionals #professionaldevelopmentforwomen #womenatwork #womenentrepreneurs #motherhoodpenalty
*insert eye roll here* It's exhausting and infuriating to be the #defaultparent , and to have to explain things that shouldn't need explaining. Moms, in general, are constantly overwhelmed and overworked by the #mentalload associated with raising kids, maintaining a house, and running a #family . Not feeling like they have a #partner or are in a #partnership with their #husband can make many #wives and #mothers wonder... Would it be easier on my own? Do you ever feel that way?
And it starts in our homes and 1:1 relationships; in our friendships, partnerships, with our kids and at work. It starts with the small decisions we make, the conversations we decide to engage in and in how we talk about unpaid labour. It starts with what kind of “jokes” are made and who decides to laugh. Women’s well-being is not a joke. We are not your “at home boss”. Our place is not in the kitchen. Men deserve the whole human experience just as women do. What a treasure for our children to have loving attentive relationships with their dads and what a treasure for dads to realize the impact their caregiving has too. In reference to telling the truth: what is your truth in regard to your role as a mother and your ability to feel whole? #motherhood #momlife #unpaidlabor #closethechoregap #realmomlife #motherhoodunplugged #matnernalmentalhealth #defaultparent #mentlaload #thehonestmom
@orah.jewels Thank you for this beautiful present 💝 VERY handy especially while teaching Urdu to my daughter. Keeps the 1000 worksheets in place and reminds me to remain kind to her no matter how much my patience is being tested 😆 #alraheem #orahjewels #urdu #finalexam #defaultparent
Just a little reminder for my parents put there... But mostly moms. #metime #postpartum #parenting #motherhood #iwanttobreakfree #selflove #selfcare #domesticated #relationships #family #momlife #defaultparent
It’s the School Holidays 🎉 Our children are overjoyed… what about you - the default parent? 🧠 The mental load of being the default parent is real! From coordinating schedules to planning activities, it can be overwhelming. 📅 Step 1: Scheduling 🔹Finding the perfect balance between fun and educational activities. 🔹Juggling work commitments and your child’s needs. 🔍 Step 2: Researching Programs 🔹Comparing different programs and their benefits. 🔹Ensuring activities are age-appropriate and engaging. 📝 Step 3: Coordination 🔹Coordinating drop-offs, pick-ups, and transportation. 🔹Making sure your child has everything they need for each activity. ❤️ The emotional toll of worrying if your child is enjoying and benefiting from their activities. ✨ Tips to Manage the Load: 🔹Delegate tasks to your partner or family members. 🔹Prioritise self-care to maintain your mental well-being. 🔹Use tools like planners or apps to stay organised. 🔹If you’re still feeling overwhelmed and/or burnout as the default parent, consider working through mental load in couple therapy. 🌸 Remember: It’s okay to ask for help and take breaks. You’re doing an amazing job, and your efforts are deeply appreciated. 💖 Follow @yammiepsychologist for similar content. #mentalload #defaultparent #mentalloadofmotherhood #selflove #selfcare #selfnurture #selfempowerment #breakthecycle #femalementalhealth #mentalhealth #mentalhealthawareness #mentalhealthmatters #mentalwellness #healingjourney #momlife #motherhoodunplugged #motherhoodjourney #maternalmentalhealth #maternalwellness #maternalwellbeing #igototherapy #acttoday #igsg #singapore #sgmotherhood #sgmentalhealth #sgpsychologist #clinicalpsychologist #yammiepsychologist #holdinggroundsg
#datinginyour30s #datinglife #datingproblems #datingwithapurpose #dbttherapy #deephealing #defaultparent #dialecticalbehaviortherapy #dontjudge #drake #drmorgancutlip #eft #embraceyourstrength #emotionalintelligence #emotionallyfocusedtherapy #emotionalpsychology #emotions #eq #estherbmft #fairfighting #family #familyrelationships #famliytherapist #feelings #findingtherighttherapist #firstlove #fortcollinscolorado #functionaladult #genderquestioning #genztherapist
Pov, you are the "default parent", and there is no such thing as resting up or recouping. I remember my mum saying how hard it was when she was ill and having to look after us . My immune system is absolutely zilch thanks to my hypothyroidism, so this means I catch everything the kids bring back, but it also takes me twice as long to get over it . So, bare with me while I wallow in self-pity 🙃 #illwithhypothyroid #hypothyroidism #hypothyroid #flu #sickmum #mumsofhertfordshire #mumssupportingmums #mumofthree #norestforthewicked #defaultparent
Up and to the right... right? “The survey shows promising trends among Gen Z moms, who not only report a more equitable distribution of household duties, but also a higher engagement in therapy, with 7 in 10 seeking support in the past year. These positive changes are crucial for maternal health. Despite this progress, challenges like affordable childcare, flexible work options and sufficient maternity leave remain pressing issues.” — Erica Djossa, Founder & CEO of Momwell If you're interested in creating home systems for a more equitable division of labor in your own household, comment "COHORT" and I'll send you more information about my 6 week summer cohort where we will be creating the home systems customized to your own home. ____________ Follow @mysagehaus for daily tips and tricks on how to outsource the mental load of motherhood, value your time, manage your household, help your marriage, and reclaim your agency as an individual and a mom. #stateofthewoman #stateofthemother #momfacts #motherhood #momthings #divisionoflabor #mentalload #defaultparent
We have to make effort to be present and engaged with each other, to be helpful in their decision making, and to be intentional about expressing gratitude for what they bring to the family. ❤️ if you agree #couplestherapist #marriagecounselling #relationshiptherapist #relationshipcounselor #defaultparent #parentinghelp #parentingteam #parentingstruggles #parentingstyle #parentingtalk
What is on the top of your list? Credit: repost via @instarepost20 from @ourrealrarelife #kidswithdisabilities #parenting #motherhood #defaultparent #raredisease #specialneedsparenting #specialneedsmom #specialneedsfamily *saw a graphic similar on @herselfpodcast and had to recreate for disability parenting
…and many more. What would you add? #kidswithdisabilities #parenting #motherhood #defaultparent #raredisease #specialneedsparenting #specialneedsmom #specialneedsfamily *saw a graphic similar on @herselfpodcast and had to recreate for disability parenting
Please read! Share if you feel like spreading the love! This post isn’t just for my wife! Although she is extremely amazing and I’m very appreciative about everything that she does and can handle throughout the day! The boys and I miss you lots and love you! This post is for all the default parents in my life! Dear default parent, We want you to know just how much we appreciate and love you for everything you do. Your daily sacrifices, tireless efforts, and unconditional love do not go unnoticed. You are the rock that holds our family together, the light that guides us through the darkest times, and the glue that binds us in love. We can’t imagine our lives without you, your wisdom, your care, and your endless support. You are our superhero, our mentor, and our best friend all rolled into one. Your love knows no bounds, and your strength is our inspiration every day. Thank you for being there for us, for believing in us, and for shaping us into the best versions of ourselves. We are blessed to have you as our default parent, and we cherish every moment we spend with you. Your presence fills our lives with warmth, happiness, and endless possibilities. We love you more than words can express, and we are grateful for all that you do. You are the heart and soul of our family, and we are forever indebted to you for your love, your sacrifices, and your unwavering support. With all our love and appreciation, Your family #parenting #defaultparent #loveyou #appreciation #family #wife #yourock
We see you Mama. We feel you. 🫶🏻🫶🏻 Tag a Mama that you want to send love to and remind her she is doing amazing!! 🫶🏻🫶🏻 #mamalife #defaultparent
Because it’s always Mums job 🙄 but that’s another post entirely! Heres my guide for you… If you want to cut this list of to-dos down significantly, come to me and I can help you do all the pre work by securing the booking, and taking a few of these to dos off your list for you too ✅ *clothes try ons and shopping not covered 😉 L x . . . . . ——————————————— 📍 Herefordshire #travelinstagram #travelagent #travelconcierge #luxefamilytravel #makingmemories #travelwell #independenttravelagent #girlswhotravel #travellifediary #wandergram #wanderlusters #alifewelltravelled #exploreeverywhere #lifeisshortenjoyit #dowhatmakesyoursoulhappy #followyourdreams #luxtravel #familieswhotravel #motherhoodunplugged #motherhood #motherhoodjourney #MumLifeUnfiltered #mumcommunity #momlifevibes #mumsofinstagramuk #mumtribe #mumlifemagic #mumswhowork #defaultparent #holidayplanning
Being a parent is challenging, and it's even more demanding when raising neurodivergent children. For us first responder families, balancing these responsibilities can feel overwhelming. Here are some strategies to help lighten the load: Educate Yourself: Learn as much as you can about your child's neurodivergence. Understanding their condition and how it affects them can help you anticipate their needs and support them better. Seek Support: Connect with other parents of neurodivergent children. Support groups, both online and offline, can provide a valuable network for sharing experiences, advice, and emotional support. Develop a Routine: Establishing routines and predictable schedules can provide structure and stability for both you and your child. Predictability can help reduce anxiety and stress for everyone involved. Practice Self-Care: It's important to take care of yourself as well. Make time for activities that recharge you and help you manage stress, whether it's exercise, hobbies, or spending time with loved ones. Set Realistic Expectations: Be realistic about what you expect from your child and yourself. Celebrate their achievements, no matter how small, and be gentle with yourself when things don't go as planned. Utilize Resources: Take advantage of resources and support services available to you, such as therapists, counselors, and special education programs. These professionals can offer guidance and assistance tailored to your child's needs. Advocate for Your Child: Be their advocate in various settings, such as school, healthcare, and social environments. Ensure that their needs are met and that they have access to the accommodations and support they require to thrive. Celebrate Progress: Celebrate your child's progress and growth, no matter how small. Recognize and appreciate their unique strengths and abilities. You are not alone! Whether you're a parent of a neurodivergent child or facing other complexities within your family, our podcast provides a supportive space where you can find community and practical advice. Tune in weekly! #neurodivergence #autismparent #defaultparent #neurodivergentes #firstresponderfamily
No, I didn't have a partner who greeted me or surprise me with gifts. But I don't need a partner to know I deserve to be celebrated on Mother's Day. Thankful for my family who's always chosen to constantly show up and shower Iñigo with love from Day One. To all of you who never failed to always check up on me and Iñigo waaay more than a partner or their family even does. We're lucky to have you 💝 To the love of my life, Thank you for choosing me to be your momma. We may be incomplete but I promise to give you all the love you'll ever need. Never make you feel like you're not a priority or ever make you question your worth like I had to. You've made me the strongest I've ever been ❤️ To all mommas alone or not on Mother's Day, I see you & I hope you know you're enough 💝💐 #motherhood #mothersday #struggle #defaultparent #singlemomlife #parenthood #celebration #love #babymomma #newborn #babyboy #strong #independent #proud #proudmom #unconditionallove #family
How do we end up the default parent? And how do we swap it? Anyone have the answer na???? #parenting #defaultparent #funtimes
Sharing this subscriber comic (from Feb) today bc we’ve made SO much progress in this area in just 6 months that I think it’s worth mentioning! 🎉 Background: over the years, for a number of logistical reasons ( the fact that Ben works evenings 3 nights/week), I became the default and preferred bedtime parent for both of our kids. This meant that if I was at home, I had to be the one to put them to bed or we’d face serious meltdowns. Every night, bedtime would drag on for an hour or so and I would be frazzled, angry, and resentful while Ben was downstairs relaxing after doing the dishes. Back in January, we decided that this HAD to change and so we took steps to change it. “All” it took (lol) was us setting keeping some serious bedtime boundaries, working together, and getting through some horribly tough nights at the beginning…but now we’ve FINALLY gotten to a place where Ben can put the kids to bed while I’m at home (downstairs) without a total meltdown. This is HUGE for us! In fact, when Ben puts them to bed they get through the bedtime routine MUCH faster he gets a break from dish duty (which I don’t mind at all if it means I don’t have to do bedtime) so it’s a win-win for all. I say all of this for those of you who, like me, thought you were stuck being the only parent who could do bedtime. It IS possible to break the preferred parent cycle but it takes serious buy-in from both parents and a plan of action. Now, tell me your stories of dad being called a “babysitter” below 🤬👇… . . . . #motherhoodlife #realmotherhood #honestmotherhood #momlifeunfiltered #toddlermomlife #motherhoodlife #motherhoodmoments #thisismotherhood #myhonestmotherhood #dailymotherhood #momoftwokids #momtruth #momstruggles #lifeasmama #momsgetit #momcomedy #postpartumlife #momanddad #momcomics #funnymomstuff #tiredmoms #tiredmomma #funnymoms #parentinghumor #parentingishard #mentalload #overwhelmedmom #doublestandards #preferredparent #defaultparent #momanddad
Sharing this subscriber comic (from Feb) today bc we’ve made SO much progress in this area in just 6 months that I think it’s worth mentioning! 🎉 Background: over the years, for a number of logistical reasons ( the fact that Ben works evenings 3 nights/week), I became the default and preferred bedtime parent for both of our kids. This meant that if I was at home, I had to be the one to put them to bed or we’d face serious meltdowns. Every night, bedtime would drag on for an hour or so and I would be frazzled, angry, and resentful while Ben was downstairs relaxing after doing the dishes. Back in January, we decided that this HAD to change and so we took steps to change it. “All” it took (lol) was us setting keeping some serious bedtime boundaries, working together, and getting through some horribly tough nights at the beginning…but now we’ve FINALLY gotten to a place where Ben can put the kids to bed while I’m at home (downstairs) without a total meltdown. This is HUGE for us! In fact, when Ben puts them to bed they get through the bedtime routine MUCH faster he gets a break from dish duty (which I don’t mind at all if it means I don’t have to do bedtime) so it’s a win-win for all. I say all of this for those of you who, like me, thought you were stuck being the only parent who could do bedtime. It IS possible to break the preferred parent cycle but it takes serious buy-in from both parents and a plan of action. Now, tell me your stories of dad being called a “babysitter” below 🤬👇… . . . . #motherhoodlife #realmotherhood #honestmotherhood #momlifeunfiltered #toddlermomlife #motherhoodlife #motherhoodmoments #thisismotherhood #myhonestmotherhood #dailymotherhood #momoftwokids #momtruth #momstruggles #lifeasmama #momsgetit #momcomedy #postpartumlife #momanddad #momcomics #funnymomstuff #tiredmoms #tiredmomma #funnymoms #parentinghumor #parentingishard #mentalload #overwhelmedmom #doublestandards #preferredparent #defaultparent #momanddad
Let’s dive into an important topic today—managing intrusive thoughts postpartum. 😓 Did you know that intrusive thoughts are actually quite common among new moms? These thoughts can be distressing and overwhelming, but understanding how to cope with them can make a big difference in your well-being.😣 Intrusive thoughts can range from worries about your baby’s safety to doubts about your parenting abilities. The good news? You’re not alone, and there are effective strategies to help manage these thoughts. ⭐️Acknowledge and Accept ⭐️Talk About It ⭐️Challenge Negative Thoughts ⭐️Create a Safety Plan ⭐️Seek Professional Help Ready to dive deeper into postpartum and motherhood topics? Follow 👉🏼 @balancedmindstherapy for more content on managing intrusive thoughts, self-care tips, and navigating early motherhood. 🔗Click the link in bio to schedule a free consultation call and explore personalized support options. You deserve to feel empowered and supported on your motherhood journey! 💕 #motherhood #millenialmom #txtherapist #texastherapy #perfectionism #growthmindset #peoplepleaser #southasiantherapist #indiantherapist #boundarysetting #anxiousattachment #anxiousattachmentstyle #motherhood #motherhoodunplugged #stressedmama #postpartummentalhealth #newmom #newmomlife #momthesedays #newparent #defaultparent #postpartum #mostpartumanxiety #postpartummom #mombrainisreal #PostpartumRealities #overwhelmedmom #tiredmom
For many Sage Haus clients it's the mindset shift and the feeling seen after years and years or maybe decades of carrying the weight of the mental load alone. Anna is a perfect example of a marketing executive and mom of 2 who felt this she was drowning in the day to day instead of feeling present with family. She also felt like motherhood stripped her of a sense of self that she was finally able to reclaim when she had time and energy back. Ready to quantify the time you're spending running your household? It's quick, easy and free. Comment "QUIZ" and I'll send you 8 questions. This will populate a dashboard that shows you how much time you're spending running your household and give you a holistic list of everything you're doing... From here you can jump into the FREE 5 day program to learn what to do with this new found knowledge. My goal? Get you to reclaim your time and sense of self. You deserve it and owe it to yourself. xo Kelly ________ Follow @mysagehaus for daily tips and tricks on how to outsource the mental load of motherhood, value your time, manage your household, help your marriage, and reclaim your agency as an individual and a mom. #mentalload #delegation #motherhoodhacks #momlifehacks #motherhoodtips #supermom #defaultparent #toddlermom #workingmom #corporatemom #testimonial #motherhoodcoach
What did I miss? Let’s make an encyclopedia of default parent things 🙂 It is the list that never ends… yes it goes on and on my friends…. #defaultparent #motherhoodunplugged #honestmotherhood #parenting #newmom #honestmom #relatablemom #defaultparenting #momsofinstagram #parents
Love you, dads, but your math just isn’t adding up (couldn’t help myself—had to put my own twist on this trend bc I think it’s so funny!). Share more Dad Math below…👇 [And I know, I know: #NOTALLDADS 🙄] . . . . #motherhoodlife #realmotherhood #honestmotherhood #momlifeunfiltered #toddlermomlife #motherhoodlife #motherhoodmoments #thisismotherhood #myhonestmotherhood #momoftwokids #momtruth #momstruggles #lifeasmama #momsgetit #momcomedy #postpartumlife #momanddad #momcomics #funnymomstuff #tiredmoms #tiredmomma #funnymoms #parentinghumor #parentingishard #mentalload #overwhelmedmom #doublestandards #defaultparent #dadlife #boymath
Ich glaube das ist so ein Grundding als Eltern. „Mach du das mal, du kannst das besser“ - in den ersten Wochen nach der Geburt hat Anna ausschließlich das Windelwechseln übernommen, weil ich liegen musste. Als Anna dann also das erste mal nach 8 Wochen ins Büro fahren musste, fühlte ich mich lost. Ok, Windeln wechseln schon mal gemacht, aber Anna kann das sicher besser, sie hat da sicher Tricks. Genauso war das mit den Naps, die habe ich begleitet und für Anna war es schwieriger. Alles ist Übung. Alles kann Mensch lernen. Niemand kann automatisch alles . Mutterinstinkt ist ein Mythos. (Danke @little.paper.plane für die beste Wochenbett Lektüre) Ich glaube Gleichberechtigung braucht Übung auf allen Seiten. Übung zulassen, Übung einfordern. Ich kann das nicht besser, ich mach es nur häufiger. #mythosmutterinstinkt #gleichberechtigteelternschaft #eltern #kind #mama #defaultparent #wochenbett
#defaultparent It's exhausting, but I wouldn't trade it for anything! Love my boys ❤️
My life is forever changed and I am forever grateful. I hold the honor of parenting such an amazing and talented individual. • As the default/gestational parent I am lucky @raye.nonbinary chooses me day in day out and also find myself often drained. • This year, Rayénari turns 3, May 16th and I turn 31 on May 21st—-within days from Eachother. • Since I hadn’t celebrated myself for the past two years in a space that’s joyful, peaceful and welcoming on who I am as a whole, I decided to join in and celebrate myself alongside my child. • We LOVED it! Raye sang happy birthday to me and I to them, the entire day. • Seeing your kid smile and kiss you, telling you they love you, randomly, because you make them feel seen, heard, understood, is the greatest reward and birthday gift I could ever receive. • More memories to share but had to add a reflection for yall. • Enjoy! • #fyp #explore #they #them #lgbt #queer #nonbinary #losangeles #parent #defaultparent #family #child #toddler
👨👧TallMan has been Mushroom Jr’s preferred/default parent ever since the two went on a trip together last summer, just before Broccoli Jr was born. This is great as we need to divide and conquer the load that is required of having two kids - especially while Broccoli is still very dependent on me with breastfeeding. We often need to solo parent each kid separately, so I am grateful that it’s working out for us. 🙏🏼 I am also very happy to see TallMan and Mushroom’s goofy energy together and special bond; It’s extremely endearing to see my two loves love each other. 😭💕 - On another hand, it can be quite frustrating to have her constantly meltdown that she wants Tōsan (dad) and not me. 👹🫠 I know that everything is a phase, but I do miss the time when she was a little baby constantly attached to me. It makes me sad knowing that I can’t always give her my 120% these days... but that’s a post for another time. - #preferredparent #ParenthoodLog #defaultparent #secondchild #toddlerandbaby
⭐️ Moms⭐️ 💕Take what you need 💕 ————————————————————————————— Hi! I’m Sanah, a mama + therapist! I help high achieving moms struggling with overwhelm due to people pleasing and perfectionism learn their needs, find their voice, & embrace their new identity as a mom. Motherhood can feel lonely & draining. But it doesnt have to! I’m here to help you better understand & adjust to your new normal. Follow @balancedmindstherapy for more postpartum & motherhood content ! 🤍🤍 #motherhood #millenialmom #txtherapist #texastherapy #perfectionism #growthmindset #peoplepleaser #southasiantherapist #indiantherapist #boundarysetting #anxiousattachment #anxiousattachmentstyle #motherhood #motherhoodunplugged #stressedmama #postpartummentalhealth #newmom #newmomlife #momthesedays #newparent #defaultparent #postpartum #mostpartumanxiety #postpartummom #mombrainisreal #PostpartumRealities #overwhelmedmom #tiredmom
It’s true ☑️ More women are taking ownership of their financial destiny, particularly around the time of pregnancy🤰🏽💸 Because when they do, everyone wins 🌟: 📈 Greater accumulation of wealth 👫🏽 Equal participation in financial decisions 💰 Improved financial decision-making 👩👧 Positive role-modeling to future generations 👩🏽💼 Increase in innovation and entrepreneurship 📉 Less reliance on public assistance Becoming an active participant in family finances will guarantee that you reap these incredible benefits ✨ Yup...right before having a baby is one of the best times to get financially fit 💪🏽 After all, a lot is riding on the line 〰️ We can help you get started 🫶🏽 👉🏽 Schedule a free call today with one of our expert Financial Doulas! #FamilyFinances #ActiveParticipant #HouseholdDecisions #FinancialAutonomy #FinancialOwnership #FinancialDestiny #DefaultParent #FinancialDoula
Do you think for other people? . How does this show up for you? . Creating awareness of how you are allowing this aspect of the mental load, gives you the opportunity to start doing it differently. . Share your thoughts below. . . #bravetobeme #bravemamas #livelifeauthentically #reparentyourinnerchild #consciousparenting #burntoutmama #maternalmentalhealth #defaultparent #maternalmentalload #fairplay #capetownmama #overstimulatedmom #postpartumanxiety
Just to make it clear, we’re never perfect at all of this. Things still come in waves and some weeks are so much harder than others but this is the closest we have ever been and it feels so good to say that especially compared to how hard it was when we first became parents 😩 Things I had no clue about before becoming a mom… How to be a mom. How hard it would be on our marriage. We have been working hard to connect and take care of each other and just really build a bond our kids can learn about love from. It’s not easy, it’s taken a lot of work, but man it’s been worth it. I would love it if you guys would share your own tips, habits, stories, how you’re doing and what’s helped you?! #marriagewithkids #marriedlifebelike #momanddad❤️ #millenialparenting #marriagetip #marriedlifeisthebestlife #defaultparent #teamworkmakesthedreamwork💯
Save this reflection prompt for the start of the week: What do you want to be more intentional about? I want to be more intentional about putting my phone away when I’m playing and interacting with my son. It’s challenging because I use my phone to accomplish a lot of things on the go like a grocery pickup or scheduling appointments. However I still want to be mindful about giving him undivided attention because I can see the impact on him… he’s so much happier when my phone is away! 💁🏽♀️ How about you? What you be more intentional about? #motherhoodburnout #stressedmama #defaultparent #defaultparentishard #postpartumanxiety #newmommy #newmom #postpartummentalhealth #postpartummom #mombrainisreal #sahmlife #careermama #motherhoodunplugged #motherhoodjournal #phoneaddiction Motherhood Mindful Mama Mindset Parenting Journaling Writing Childhood Inner Child
48 hours of just being me. ‘Nicole’. Not ‘Mummy’. I felt a bit of fog lift from my head, a peaceful focus I got lost in time, not checking my watch to see when I need to do the pickup or negotiate bedtimes I was present & perfectly stimulated, not over or under. I heard the birds signing & smelt the flowers with clarity I slept deeply without worrying about the pitter patter of tiny feet finding me in the dark of the night. Like I switched off rather than just my default ‘standby mode’ I mothered myself. I was top of my list. I was mindful and it felt natural I missed them, but they managed without me. Which knowing they can, relieves the burden of being the default parent I danced, I sang. I ate my dinner straight away without having to cut up sausages or play musical chairs beforehand I felt like ME. Not the pre kids me. She’s gone & I don’t chase her. I like the me I am now. But she needed a breather & I gave her the permission to take it 👌🏼 __________________ It’s ok to have a break Mamas! And it’s ok to enjoy it. It doesn’t make you a bad Mum. It makes you a great role model! Give it a go if you can & if you want to 💞 Tag a Mama you’d like to take a break with 👇🏼
H A P P Y M O T H E R S D A Y Happy Mother’s Day to all the incredible women out there, reminding us that balancing priorities and nurturing our sense of self is truly an art form… a very effing difficult art form… but hey we are all doing our best out here 👩🎨. Cheers to you! #mothersday #momof2 #toddlermom #workingmom #defaultparent #realisticmom #momsofinstagram #yycmom #canadianmom #yyccontentcreator #yyc #calgarylife #yycfamilies
Raise your hand if you’ve told your husband something at least 5 times and he swears you didn’t…🙋🏾♀️ If you haven’t already, make sure you click the link in my bio to listen to the new episode of the podcast. I’m talking about default parenting with jkellough and he drops some serious gems from the default providers’ perspective! #defaultparent
Me… I bought baseball tickets for the wrong day. @graysquirrellz crushed #mothersday with a wonderful card. It’s tough being the #defaultparent but @alpyj makes it look easy
It's so true... It gets exhausting. Couldn't really enjoy my mother's day because, for some reason, I'm still left to tend to the kids while my husband does what he wants in the garage. #defaultparent #defaultparentproblems #marriedsingleparent #workingmom #stressedout #stressedoutmom #parenting
For all the Moms 💐 #mothersday #mothers #mothersdaygift #divorce #divorced #divorcedmom #divorcedmoms #divorcerecovery #divorcecoach #divorcecoaching #singlemoms #singlemomlife #singleparent #singleworkingmom #explorepage✨ #instagood #momstyle #momblogger #momboss #mominfluencer #mothers #mother #happymothersday #bestmoments #coparenting #coparentingdoneright #soloparent #soloparenting #moms #defaultparent #happymothersday
*clinks our tube of Triple Paste with yours*🤗 Here’s to ALL the mother figures who double as diaper changers.🌍💫 Whether you’re a mom, aunt, best friend, grandma or nanny, you play a BIG role in shaping little ones’ lives. So we’re celebrating YOU today. Big time. #TriplePaste #ForMoms #MomsofInstagram #Moms #MomsLife #MomsofIG #MustHave #MustHaveProducts #GottaHaveIt #DiaperRash #MomLife #MomLifeBeLike #MomLifeIsTheBestLife #BestBabyProducts #BestDiaperRashCream #BabyTips #BabyCare #MomLifeBalance #BabyTips #BabyParenting #DefaultParent #Parenting #Godparent #Godmother #Stepmother #Stepmom #Stepdad #Mom
Women supporting women. @babypage 🤍🫶🏼🤎 #mothersdayquote #womensupportingwomen #rest #sleegap #restgap #stressrelief #selfcare #selflove #therestspot #defaultparent #momburnout #mentalload #workingmom #resttherapy #burnout #atlmom #smyrnaga #wellbeing #stress #stressedout #stressed #momlife #burnout #tiredmom #staycation #sleepconcierge #sleep #restretreat
Here’s to the magic makers and the many hats you wear. Wishing you a meaningful and love-filled Mother’s Day. ☀️ #mothersday #momlife #defaultparent #palmbeachmoms #westpalmbeach #floridamoms #jupitermoms #bocamoms #delraymoms
[Werbung unbezahlt] GEDANKEN ZUM MUTTERTAG In den letzten Wochen hab ich mich mal wieder mehr mit den „festgelegten“ Ehrentagen befasst, und auch in Gesprächen mit anderen Müttern gemerkt, dass doch viele dem Muttertag ehr kritisch gegenüber stehen. Bei Sätzen wie : „ Der Partner hilft heute im Haushalt mit“ muss ich immer etwas schmunzeln. Na ja… ist ja auch sein Haushalt und seine Kinder…. Er macht ja keinen „Girls and Boys Day“ oder ein Praktikum wo man mal in diesen Job „reinschnuppern“ darf. 😎😂Mütter müssen unglaublich viel Arbeit leisten, die nicht gesehen und nicht anerkannt wird. Einige Begriffe, die mir hier einfallen sind Care-Arbeit, mental-load, default parent. Und das meistens neben dem eigenen Job. Es ist mittlerweile ein Teil der Gleichberechtigung, dass Frauen vermehrt ihre Gefühle rund ums Muttersein teilen, und das ist auch gut so. Wir sind nicht alleine. Wir möchten jeden Tag gesehen werden. Wir verstehen, dass unsere Männer auch viel arbeiten und auch viel machen. Dennoch kann einen der mental load erschlagen, wenn man ihn alleine tragen muss. Wir Frauen wissen nicht mit einem positiven Schwangerschaftstest, wie das Leben als Mutter funktioniert, wir tauschen uns mit anderen Müttern aus, lesen Bücher und arbeiten jeden Tag daran diese Arbeit zu erlernen. Dafür gehört den Müttern jeden Tag Respekt und Wertschätzung entgegengebracht. Dafür, dass sie ihren Körper teilen um ein kleines Wesen zu gebären, dafür dass sie ihren Kindern eine schöne Kindheit ermöglichen, oftmals eine bessere als wie sie selbst erlebt haben, dafür dass sie Nachts wach liegen bis die Teenager wieder heil Zuhause sind, dafür dass sie ihre Kinder sehen, sie loslassen müssen, wenn sie ihren eigenen Weg gehen und ausziehen und sie ihnen trotzdem Wurzeln und Flügel vermitteln. Dafür dass sie jeden Tag den Spagat zwischen Job, Kindern, Haushalt und Beziehung schaffen, und dabei sich selbst nicht verlieren. Dafür gilt es jeden Tag dankbar zu sein. ❤️ Ich wünsche allen Frauen heute einen wunerschönen Tag mit Sonne, Kaffee, einem guten Buch und Zeit für Euch. ❤️ #muttertag #happymothersday #mama #mum #selfcare #selbstfürsorge #mentalload #carearbeit #defaultparent #metime
Sharing this subscriber comic (from Feb) today bc we’ve made SO much progress in this area in just 6 months that I think it’s worth mentioning! 🎉 Background: over the years, for a number of logistical reasons ( the fact that Ben works evenings 3 nights/week), I became the default and preferred bedtime parent for both of our kids. This meant that if I was at home, I had to be the one to put them to bed or we’d face serious meltdowns. Every night, bedtime would drag on for an hour or so and I would be frazzled, angry, and resentful while Ben was downstairs relaxing after doing the dishes. Back in January, we decided that this HAD to change and so we took steps to change it. “All” it took (lol) was us setting keeping some serious bedtime boundaries, working together, and getting through some horribly tough nights at the beginning…but now we’ve FINALLY gotten to a place where Ben can put the kids to bed while I’m at home (downstairs) without a total meltdown. This is HUGE for us! In fact, when Ben puts them to bed they get through the bedtime routine MUCH faster he gets a break from dish duty (which I don’t mind at all if it means I don’t have to do bedtime) so it’s a win-win for all. I say all of this for those of you who, like me, thought you were stuck being the only parent who could do bedtime. It IS possible to break the preferred parent cycle but it takes serious buy-in from both parents and a plan of action. Now, tell me your stories of dad being called a “babysitter” below 🤬👇… . . . . #motherhoodlife #realmotherhood #honestmotherhood #momlifeunfiltered #toddlermomlife #motherhoodlife #motherhoodmoments #thisismotherhood #myhonestmotherhood #dailymotherhood #momoftwokids #momtruth #momstruggles #lifeasmama #momsgetit #momcomedy #postpartumlife #momanddad #momcomics #funnymomstuff #tiredmoms #tiredmomma #funnymoms #parentinghumor #parentingishard #mentalload #overwhelmedmom #doublestandards #preferredparent #defaultparent #momanddad
Parenting is hard. Being the default parent is hard. Burnout is real. I walk over 10,000 steps a day without leaving the house just caring for my children while cleaning up, cooking, playing and doing laundry. To all the default parents out there, I see you. I feel you. Some times we want to be the parent who plays cars all day but we cannot neglect the cooking or cleaning of our spaces for our little ones. I’ve learned it gets easier, it gets better and one day you will look back and wonder where the time went. Tell those kids you love them and finish those dishes😉. (Or make them wait another day and get those baby cuddles in!) #sahm #motherhood #baby #toddlermom #toddlermomlife #poems #defaultparent #choresdone #parenthood #parents #infant #newmom #apieceofmyheart #sahd #blackauthor #blackparents #cleanhouse #momlifebelike #firsttimemom #blackwriters
Moms, I feel like I’m leaving so much out?! What else are you feeling or thinking about this Mother’s Day weekend besides what you think you are supposed to be feeling? 🧐🤔💭 . . . #mom #mothersday2024 #grief #parenting #defaultparent #rest #youdoyou #therapistformoms #traumasurvivor #healing #momsoflittles #momsof instagram
Both my kids are attached to the hip 🙄😆 #defaultparent
🗣️Calling all overwhelmed Mamas!🗣️ ✨This Mother’s Day, let’s ditch the clichés and focus on what moms truly want—gifts that don’t add to the mental load.👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 ✨REST is the ultimate luxury. While flowers are lovely (and appreciated!), what moms really crave is uninterrupted time to recharge. ✨Support in carrying the invisible weight of parenting is priceless. Partners and support systems, take note—jump in and offer to share the mental and emotional load without waiting to be asked. ❓What else do YOU think moms truly want? Share your thoughts in the comments! ——————————————————————— Hi! I’m Sanah, a mama + therapist! I help high achieving moms struggling with overwhelm due to people pleasing and perfectionism learn their needs, find their voice, & embrace their new identity as a mom. Motherhood can feel lonely & draining. But it doesnt have to! I’m here to help you better understand & adjust to your new normal. Follow @balancedmindstherapy for more postpartum & motherhood content ! 🤍🤍 #motherhood #millenialmom #txtherapist #texastherapy #perfectionism #growthmindset #peoplepleaser #southasiantherapist #indiantherapist #boundarysetting #anxiousattachment #anxiousattachmentstyle #motherhood #motherhoodunplugged #stressedmama #postpartummentalhealth #newmom #newmomlife #momthesedays #newparent #defaultparent #postpartum #mostpartumanxiety #postpartummom #mombrainisreal #PostpartumRealities #overwhelmedmom #tiredmom
Love you, dads, but your math just isn’t adding up (couldn’t help myself—had to put my own twist on this trend bc I think it’s so funny!). Share more Dad Math below…👇 [And I know, I know: #NOTALLDADS 🙄] . . . . #motherhoodlife #realmotherhood #honestmotherhood #momlifeunfiltered #toddlermomlife #motherhoodlife #motherhoodmoments #thisismotherhood #myhonestmotherhood #momoftwokids #momtruth #momstruggles #lifeasmama #momsgetit #momcomedy #postpartumlife #momanddad #momcomics #funnymomstuff #tiredmoms #tiredmomma #funnymoms #parentinghumor #parentingishard #mentalload #overwhelmedmom #doublestandards #defaultparent #dadlife #boymath
Raise your hand if you’ve told your husband something at least 5 times and he swears you didn’t…🙋🏾♀️ If you haven’t already, make sure you click the link in my bio to listen to the new episode of the podcast. I’m talking about default parenting with jkellough and he drops some serious gems from the default providers’ perspective! #defaultparent
Raise your hand if you’ve told your husband something at least 5 times and he swears you didn’t…🙋🏾♀️ If you haven’t already, make sure you click the link in my bio to listen to the new episode of the podcast. I’m talking about default parenting with jkellough and he drops some serious gems from the default providers’ perspective! #defaultparent
Love you, dads, but your math just isn’t adding up (couldn’t help myself—had to put my own twist on this trend bc I think it’s so funny!). Share more Dad Math below…👇 [And I know, I know: #NOTALLDADS 🙄] . . . . #motherhoodlife #realmotherhood #honestmotherhood #momlifeunfiltered #toddlermomlife #motherhoodlife #motherhoodmoments #thisismotherhood #myhonestmotherhood #momoftwokids #momtruth #momstruggles #lifeasmama #momsgetit #momcomedy #postpartumlife #momanddad #momcomics #funnymomstuff #tiredmoms #tiredmomma #funnymoms #parentinghumor #parentingishard #mentalload #overwhelmedmom #doublestandards #defaultparent #dadlife #boymath
I'll never forget the evening I summoned my husband to the living room for a meeting that changed our relationship and gave us an overall happier, healthier and more productive life. 🎉 I made an exhaustive list (on an excel spreadsheet no doubt) of all the things I was doing to run our household. I assigned time to these tasks. ✅ I added it up. ✏️ I was spending upwards for 22 hours per week running our household ON TOP of my full time job. 🤯 Besides being completely and totally blown away at the MOM MATH... my husband simply sat back and said... "well, this looks like a part time job." ‼️ BINGO. 😁 The rest is history. (But I tell you the whole story and how we started small, and on a shoestring budget to hire a house manager in my 5 DAY COURSE... Psssst it's FREE....) 🙌🏼 If you're ready to have this conversation with your partner, I GOT YOU. It doesn't need to be scary or contentious. I just needs to be factual. 🤓 And, if you want to figure out how much TIME you're spending I'll serve this up to you in a dashboard. Comment 'QUIZ' and I'll send you the link. It takes two minutes! ⏱️ ________ Follow @mysagehaus for daily tips and tricks on how to outsource the mental load of motherhood, value your time, manage your household, help your marriage, and reclaim your agency as an individual and a mom. #mentalload #delegation #motherhoodhacks #momlifehacks #motherhoodtips #supermom #defaultparent #mothersday
Save this journaling prompt. This one has me in my feels. This has only happened to me in a drastic way once in my life. And the woman I am now is because of that defining moment. She’s a force to be reckoned with and I am so proud of her ❤️🩹🧿 Motherhood Journaling Mama Mindset Mental Load Default Parent #motherhoodburnout #stressedmama #defaultparent #defaultparentishard #postpartumanxiety #newmommy #newmom #postpartummentalhealth #postpartummom #mombrainisreal #sahmlife #careermama #motherhoodwritten #morherhoodunplugged #motherhoodjournal
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Are you the default parent? Read our new blog post on how to get your partner more involved in sharing the load. https://talkspacepsychology.com.au/news/how-to-get-your-partner-involved-when-youre-the-default-parent/ #defaultparent #parentalburnoutawareness
Which do you feel most often? . If it's useful, use it to create change. . If it's useless, let it go and move on. . Both options require loving discipline of your thoughts and actions. . For support with this, book a free 30min Discovery Call so we can chat about coaching. I can help. . The link is in my bio. . . #bravetobeme #bravemamas #livelifeauthentically #bravemama #burntoutmama #postpartumselfcare #innerchildhealing #reparentyourinnerchild #consciousparenting #maternalmentalhealth #boundariesmatter #defaultparent #maternalmentalload #fairplay #capetownmama #postpartumanxiety #momguilt #momguiltnomore
👋🏼Comment the word CLASS to sign up for this FREE class!! Let’s be honest, it can be so triggering to see your parents (and in-laws) reaction to your children’s behavior. It brings up deeply ingrained beliefs about how things are “supposed” to be in a parent child dynamic. And all of your “stuff” comes bubbling right to the surface. After our visit I was even more triggered because all the residual frustration was still there. Since that trip I’ve done a DEEP dive on breaking cycles, changing loops, removing self limiting beliefs and putting strong boundaries in place so I can parent the way I want to no matter who is around. I’ve put together a class and cannot wait to share this info with you! 🙌🏼 Comment the word CLASS for the workshop details. 👯♀️Share with a fellow cycle breaker who you know resonates with this feeling. ⛓️💥Follow for more tips on how to break toxic cycles in everyday parenting situations. Cycle breaking is so hard. And so triggering. Go easy on yourself. Trust your choices and breathe. And if this video doesn’t resonate with you please respectfully keep scrolling. I am not here to engage in unhealthy, negative or dangerous comments. This is not an attack on my parents or in-laws. We have all grown together since this trip and it’s been a beautiful process. They are just as grateful for the work I’ve done as I am because it’s benefitted us all. They are much happier as well. . . . . . #parenting #parentingtips #emotionalintelligence #emotionalregulation #parentcoach #parentsupport #responseableparenting #modelingbehavior #momlife #defaultparent #parentingfail #parentwin #parentingpodcast #podcastforparents #parenthack #momslife #momsofinstagram #momhack #consciousparenting #parentingishard #connectionovercorrection #wecandohardthings #connectedkids #cyclebreaking #cyclebreakers
I often hear new moms express this sentiment during the early years of motherhood. Trust me, I've been there too. It's like we've placed all our interests and hobbies on a shelf, focusing solely on taking care of our kids. Finding time for ourselves, basic self-care, or even a moment of respite becomes a rare luxury. Meanwhile, our partners, not bearing the primary caregiving burden, seem to navigate their lives with more ease. They step out of the house, pursue their passions, meet friends, luxuriate in long showers, or spend what feels like eternity in the bathroom. Mothers have a unique knack for prioritizing everyone and everything else before themselves. These instances of constantly putting ourselves last gradually build up, forming a barrier of resentment towards our partners that can dampen our desire for physical intimacy and connection. We all deserve breaks, fathers and mothers alike, especially if you're the primary caregiver. Stand up, mamas, for your right to breaks and "me time." It's crucial not only for your well-being but also for nurturing your bond with your partner and enhancing your intimate life in the long run. Remember, taking care of yourself is not selfish—it's a necessary investment in your overall happiness and relationships. #mombreak #mamasupport #newmom #overworkedmom #tiredmom #takecareofyourself #momsdeservebreaks #partnersupport #communicationiskey #balanceinrelationship #newparents #newparentsupport #listenupdad #newdad #relationship101 #defaultparent #momwellness #consciousrelationships #parenthoodjourney #goodrelationship #relationshipstruggles #marriageafterbaby #intimacyafterbaby #lifeafterbaby #stressedmom #joyfulmothethood #momselfcare #lifewithababy
Hey mamas! Let’s have a candid chat about the realities of new motherhood 🌿 First off, it’s completely normal to feel overwhelmed—it’s a big adjustment! Balancing the demands of work alongside the needs of a newborn can feel like a daily juggling act, leaving us with little time for ourselves. The pressure to excel both professionally and as mothers can be intense, often leading to self-doubt and exhaustion. 😰 Overstimulation can show up when you’re: ✨trying go balance work & parenting ✨figuring out this new identity as a mama ✨struggling with loneliness ✨falling under the patterns of people pleasing If this resonates with you, know that you’re not alone! Send this post to a new mama who may be struggling with this & follow along for more content on motherhood & postpartum ——————————————————————— Hi! I’m Sanah, a mama + therapist! I help high achieving moms struggling with overwhelm due to people pleasing and perfectionism learn their needs, find their voice, & embrace their new identity as a mom. Motherhood can feel lonely & draining. But it doesnt have to! I’m here to help you better understand & adjust to your new normal. Follow @balancedmindstherapy for more postpartum & motherhood content ! 🤍🤍 #motherhood #millenialmom #txtherapist #texastherapy #perfectionism #growthmindset #peoplepleaser #southasiantherapist #indiantherapist #boundarysetting #anxiousattachment #anxiousattachmentstyle #motherhood #motherhoodunplugged #stressedmama #postpartummentalhealth #newmom #newmomlife #momthesedays #newparent #defaultparent #postpartum #mostpartumanxiety #postpartummom #mombrainisreal #PostpartumRealities #overwhelmedmom #tiredmom